One Moment

One moment can change everything!



Whether it be marriage, a baby or a diagnosis. It is amazing how one moment can change everything!

My diagnosis changed everything. It gave me a sense of relief. I had been searching for an answer for years. I actually asked my primary doctor about fibromyalgia. She just dismissed it as stress. A year later I asked my psychiatrist for a referral to a rheumatologist. When I saw the rheumatologist, she agreed it was fibromyalgia. It's incredible how much relief can come from a diagnosis. Now whenever something "weird" happens with my body, I look up fibromyalgia and the symptom. Every time so far, there is a connection to fibromyalgia. If you are reading this, you probably know fibromyalgia sucks! Not having a label or a reason sucks worse though. Instead of being the person with the weird, random symptoms. I at least have a community now. I have a label. Having a label is empowering, even when it's not a label you necessarily want.
         My medicine changed everything. It's incredible how much medicine can change you. I started taking Lyrica and then because of insurance, got switched to gabapentin. Honestly, I wish I never took it. It did help, but there were significant side effects. I will discuss these side effects in another post.

My pregnancy changed everything. Finding out that I was pregnant was a shock. Honestly, I wasn't ready to be a mom. There was no question about keeping my baby. So, I got ready. I got really excited. I let go of the fear. There was so much fear. Everything in my life was about to change. Well, it all changed again. It wasn't in the way I thought though. The next life-changing moment was heartbreak. I went for a checkup ultrasound. Something seemed off during an ultrasound in August. So, I went back in September. That’s when they told me her heart stopped beating. I had a stillbirth.

I had no idea how much one moment could change everything. When I was younger I believed, you are who you are and circumstances don't change that. I thought you had complete control over who you are. I have learned that who you are, it does change and it's okay to let it. I get to be a part of a great community. I get to connect with others by embracing who I am! Nobody wants to live in chronic pain. Nobody wants to have a stillbirth. It makes it so incredibly hard to keep going sometimes. However, I know I'm not alone. Too many people live in chronic pain. Too many people have had a stillbirth. Too many people suffer. I am changed but I am so proud of the person I am though. I am strong, positive, grateful, and loving despite all the hard times I have been through. Our circumstances have made things seem impossible. However, we made it through the day and that makes us so strong. 

 I encourage you to post!
How has life changed you? What is your story?
We are a community. I believe in acceptance and supporting each other. Chronic illness can make life very lonely and scary. So, we need to stick together. Share what you are comfortable with.

    

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